Introducing The Gut Psychology Program by Dr. Nicole Cain, ND MA

Introducing The Gut Psychology Program

by Dr. Nicole Cain, ND MA

•Did you know that 95% of your mood altering neurotransmitters are made in your gut?

•Are you looking to solve the mystery of what foods are right for you?

•Are you ready to go beyond the prescriptions and heal from the inside out?

•Do you want to become the happiest, healthiest person you know?

Dr. Nicole Cain ND, MA has published her first book on health. The Gut Psychology program 61 pages of life-changing material!

The e-book is broken up into a 4 stage program that will take you through the steps necessary to improve your gut health, overall health, and mood! The program is empirically researched with 50 scholarly references combined with Dr. Cain’s clinical experience. In addition to the state of the art knowledge provided to you, and formatted into four stages (each can be completed in one week or one month–work at your own pace), the program includes exercises and reflections for you to utilize at each stage of the program. It is now available to you at an affordable price.

You can purchase the e-book, instantly downloadable below:

https://gumroad.com/gutpsychology

gut psychology by Dr. Nicole Cain ND MA healthy gut = happy mind

Gut Psychology: The Most Comprehensive & Empirically Researched Dietary Program for Mental Health

It starts here with just four steps…

After decades of research, we know just how important gut health is to our mental and emotional health. Gut health influences your mood for better or for worse, but how do we know which diet is best for us? Learn how you can improve your digestion, eat your way to happiness and gain your life back by following the Gut Psychology program.

Through the Gut Psychology four-week program you will be empowered with the tools to help you get back to the best you. While it’s powerful, it isn’t complicated. With over 2,000 happy customers, it’s clear Gut Psychology was created to make big improvements with simple, small shifts. Dr. Cain seamlessly guides you through the modules as you implement the information at home.

In one transformational month, you will be able to:

•Identify the foods to improve your mood

•Get the tools to heal your gut

•Give your body the nutrients its been depleted of

•Develop the healthy habits to maintain a happy gut and happy mind, through every season of life.

 

Below are a list of recent blogs written by Dr. Nicole Cain, ND MA available exclusively at Gut Psychology.com:

http://gutpsychology.com/the-dopamine-diet/

http://gutpsychology.com/guide-to-mentally-healthy-kids-diet/

http://gutpsychology.com/the-serotonin-diet/

http://gutpsychology.com/gut-psychology-gut-health-muscle-building/

 

To learn more about Dr. Nicole Cain ND MA and her work visit www.DrNicoleCain.Com

Dr. Nicole Cain, ND MA Expert on alternative psychiatric care
Dr. Nicole Cain, ND MA – The Author of the Gut Psychology Program.

 

Sample Pages below:

the Gut Psychology Program by Dr. Nicole Cain ND MA: Proteins; expanding your palate from chicken and cheese
This is a low resolution screenshot of the first page of Module 2 of the Gut Psychology Program by Dr. Nicole Cain ND MA
he Gut Psychology Program by Dr. Nicole Cain ND MA
This is a low resolution screenshot from some of the content in the Gut Psychology Program by Dr. Nicole Cain ND MA

 

 

the Gut Psychology Program by Dr. Nicole Cain ND MA, researching the root cause, the link between your gut health and emotional well-being.
This is a low resolution screenshot from the Gut Psychology Program by Dr. Nicole Cain ND MA

To learn more about the Gut Psychology Program visit www.GutPsychology.com

Gut Psychology by Dr. Nicole Cain, ND MA is now available!

Why you need an accurate Food Allergy Panel

Why you need an accurate Food Allergy Panel

by Dr. Shannon Bennett, ND

Have you heard about the Food Allergy Panel? It’s been a popular test for the past few years, and with good reason! But we are hearing some people are still confused, so let’s clear it up. The Food Allergy Panel is a blood test that will highlight foods you’ve been eating that are causing your immune system to be activated and initiate inflammation in the gut and can wreak havoc elsewhere.

The first important item to understand about this test is the big difference between IgE and IgG-mediated immune responses. While many allergist are in search of the foods or items that bring about an IgE response, they are searching for those that increase the release of histamine leading to severe and even fatal situations like hives and anaphylaxis. However, the Food Allergy Panel is testing for the IgG-mediated immune response. Unlike the fast-acting IgE, this is the delayed reaction your immune system can have when ingesting food items that your body has developed a sensitivity to. It can take up to 72 hours for symptoms to appear from a food that your blood levels show a high IgG-mediated response. This delayed response makes it difficult to correlate which foods are causing what symptoms. You may be eating the same thing every morning without knowing it’s leading to those chronic migraines your experiencing, that depression, or the joint paint that won’t go away. The presentation of symptoms from the IgG response is usually chronic, low-level and slow to progress with wide variety. These symptoms can range from headaches, nausea, skin symptoms like eczema, joint pain, tinea and discoloration, mood symptoms, gastrointestinal distress and neurocognitive disruption. An IgG food allergy panel may be the ticket to track down and overcome these unresolved symptoms you are struggling with.

The Food Allergy Panel is a functional test, which means it isn’t just looking to rule in or out a disease, it’s looking to find where your body is functioning suboptimally and how to get it back on track. Utilizing functional testing, it’s possible to see diseases before they are present and reverse them from progressing into more serious and severe cases.

Some alternatives to the food allergy panel is the elimination diet, which is a food based cleanse that removes the most common inflammatory, or IgG-activating foods, for a period of time allowing the immune response to decrease. During the elimination phase, supplements and nutrients to heal the gut are introduced. Slowly, the common allergen foods are re-introduced in a strategic way to reveal the symptoms associated with that food, with a 72-hour watch period after ingestion.

Often times this is done in place of the Food Allergy Panel, however it is most effective to gather all the information specific to your body and implementing the elimination diet, not with the most common allergens, but the ones that are actually affecting your body. Sometimes the food(s) responsible for the havoc on the gut aren’t in the top 12 common allergens and could be something that is being eaten daily, like oats or bananas. We see foods that are very unsuspecting, such as almonds showing a red flag, when typically we would think of food families like dairy or gluten as most harmful and the replacement of those top allergens are products like almond milk or almond flour. You can see how this can get very confusing and frustrating without a detailed map of what foods are affecting you, and that’s where the Food Allergy Panel testing comes in. The Food Allergy Panel is a way to test 96+ food families for any reactions in your unique body.

For more information or to set up a Food Allergy Panel for yourself you can call Health for Life Grand Rapids at 616-200-4433 or purchase the test online by clicking here.

Nationwide Food Allergy Testing Program

Rewind, reset, and give yourself “permission” in the New Year!

How to rewind, reset, and give yourself “permission” in the New Year!

by Jen Belmonte, LMSW, CHC

It’s that time of year again!  Gym memberships significantly increase, families and individuals adopt healthier food choices, and many homes experience greater organization, cleaning, etc!

But how do we approach the New Year in a way to make fulfilling, sustainable changes?

As January approaches, it’s easy to become overzealous in our quest for personal growth and change; however, as mental health professionals, we’ve found that when individuals set lofty, tough-to-attain goals, the outcome is often feelings of defeat rather than fulfillment.

Here are a couple of recommendations I’d like to offer, in order to help the New Year be one of intention and fulfillment for you.

  1. Start saying NO.  In fact, try to say NO to more things (commitments, activities) than you say YES to!

As Dr. Edmund Bourne highlights in The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook,

“Learning to say no requires a willingness to relinquish cherished beliefs about yourself—which can be one of the hardest things for anyone to do. This may involve expanding your identity beyond taking care of others, or taking care of business, and learning to take the time to nurture and attend to your own needs. It means accepting the reality that taking care of yourself—even at the expense of what you do for others—isn’t selfish. Can you really offer your best to others or your work if you are tired, stressed, or burned out?”

Our society today tends to normalize busy-ness…. at times, we may even obtain a significant amount of our self-worth from how full our calendar is.  Saying NO may seem strange, awkward, and uncomfortable at first, but the more you do it, the easier it will become!  Ask yourself a couple of questions before agreeing to a commitment…. First, is this what’s BEST for me right now?  In other words, am I likely to leave this encounter/activity feeling energized, or depleted?  Second, am I the best person to carry this out?  Stay true to who you are, and how you’re wired. For example, if your child’s school is looking for a volunteer to organize a fundraiser, and you know that you struggle in the areas of project management and philanthropy, saying NO to this will create and offer space for you to do things that align with your temperament and your own personal interests. Too often we agree to things from a sense of guilt or obligation, and in the end, no one wins when these are the motivators. At times, we need to give ourselves permission to say NO.

Another way to say NO is to create a NO-FLY zone for you and/or your family’s schedule. In other words, give yourself a “time-out.” Create some space/margin where you do not schedule anything. Maybe that means staying home on a Saturday morning or taking a raincheck on a dinner invitation. The art of quietness and rest has been lost, as individuals and families today are pulled in so many directions.

  1. Explore a practice such as meditation, mindfulness (check out mindful.org), or yoga to cultivate rest, optimism and intention.

According to the Mayo Clinic, learning relaxation techniques has many health benefits, including improving concentration and mood, improving quality of sleep, lowering blood pressure, improving digestion and maintaining normal blood sugar levels!

Practicing gratitude is another powerful factor in helping to alleviate stress. According to Harvard Medical School, practicing gratitude has consistently shown a correlation with greater feelings of happiness, ability to deal with adversity, and build strong relationships. Cultivating gratitude can be done by keeping a gratitude journal, creating a gratitude jar, praying, and thanking individuals who’ve offered help and support.

  1. Consider investing in yourself with counseling and/or health coaching!

The road to self-care and personal growth can be lonely and challenging. The staff at Health for Life GR would be honored to partner with you in your personal, relational and health & wellness goals! In fact, Health For Life Grand Rapids’ Health Coaches, Nicole Vega and Jen Belmonte are offering a special discounted New Year’s rate! Please contact the office at 616.200.4433 for details!

Or email [email protected] and [email protected]

 

References:

The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, 6th edition, by Edmund J. Bourne, PhD, New Harbinger Publications 2015

www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/relaxation-technique/art-20045368

https://www.health.harvard.edu/newsletter_article/in-praise-of-gratitude

Set an intention for the New Year. That alone can be powerful!

New Year's Intentions. How to say no and give yourself permission.

Exclusive & Affordable Food Allergy Testing Now Available!

Exclusive & Affordable Food Allergy Testing

Now Available from Health for Life Grand Rapids.

Did you know that over 30% of adults and 40% of children suffer from food allergies?* Food allergies are the foundation for of symptoms related to your brain chemistry, immune system, hormones and more.

If you are suffering from any of the following, you should get your personalized Food Allergy test:

  • Symptoms related to brain & mood health: Anxiety, depression, sleeping issues, irritability, concentration issues, brain fog, ADD/ADHD and more.
  • Digestive and gut health symptoms: Abdominal pain, diarrhea, constipation, bloating and gas, and irritable bowel syndrome.
  • You have a history of: Congestion, post-nasal drip, asthma, itchy and watery eyes.
  • You have been told you are allergic to environmental allergens like mold, grass, animal dander, and others.
  • Symptoms affecting your immune system: Psoriasis, eczema, acne, colds, flus, respiratory tract infections and more.

Your gut health is the foundation of your immune health, brain health, and impacts your risk factor for acute and chronic diseases. If our gut is compromised and out of balance, than our entire system will be out of balance resulting in the symptoms listed above as well as many others.

Food allergies are foods that your body has become hypersensitive to. A well-known example of this is Celiac Disease. Celiac Disease is an autoimmune disease where your immune system mounts a response against gluten and the small intestine. A celiac panel looks at immunoglobulin made by the immune system in affected individuals; similarly, a food allergy panel will look at immunoglobulin(s) compared against other types of foods that your body might be reacting to.

Because the health of the gut is the foundation for your entire body’s health, when the gut becomes damaged you will experience many other systemic symptoms, and the gut becomes a breeding ground for imbalances in the yeast and flora in your gut.

There are hundreds of dietary programs on the market. The problem with these programs is that every fad-diet assumes that every single person has the same dietary needs. These diets do not take your individual biochemical makeup into consideration. By looking at your unique biomarkers, we can discern what foods are good for you and what foods are not.

You can easily identify what foods you are allergic to and calculate if your candida is out of balance by simply by signing up today.

Because of our commitment to offering affordable health solutions to the larger community, we have deeply discounted food allergy and candida testing and the physician analysis and program creation.

Upon signing up, (1) we will send you your personalized Food Allergy Kit in the mail and give you the address of a lab where they will do a quick and easy blood draw. (1b) Your kit will contain all the materials you need, including overnight shipping.

(2) Once we have received your results (from the lab), one of our highly specialized doctors will analyze your results and (3) send you your personalized analysis and dietary plan.

( Program Value = $700 Dollars! Normal Cost= Comprehensive Food Allergy & Candida test: $325

Evaluation of results & dietary program development by doctor: $375 )

Health for Life Exclusive Rate:

Your Cost= ONLY $300 Dollars!

Get started today by clicking HERE!

To learn more you may call the Health For Life office at 616-200-4433.
You may also sign up by phone!

Food Allergy Testing Program Flyer (Downloadable)

 

Further Discussion:

An allergy is defined as a damaging response of the immune system to a substance, particularly a pollen, dander, food or dust. The person becomes hypersensitive to these, resulting in unwanted symptoms upon exposure. Your gut health and immune system are inextricably linked, in fact, 78% of your immune tissue is in your gut. The gut is the foundation for our immune response. If our gut is out of balance, our immune response will be out of balance. Allergies originate in dysfunction with the gut and a healthy gut is a safety buffer against allergies, and contrastingly, an unhealthy gut is the foundation of allergies (WebMD). To learn more about the relationship to the gut and the immune system, read the article published in Johns Hopkins Medicine Journal entitled: “The Gut: Where Bacteria and Immune System Meet” by Helen Fields (2015).

*The statistic of 30% and 40% is derived from the aforementioned understanding of allergies starting in the gut.

The evidence is clear that the immune system is regulated by the gut and that allergies are a dysfunction in the immune system in response to an external substance (food, dust, etc). Allergies start in the gut and the treatment of allergies—even if the “symptom” is only seen with exposure to trees or grass, for example—must begin by addressing the gut health and the gut’s response to food.

The challenge is that many allergists are not yet testing gut health. Partly this is because of the systems-based nature of our health care system. Psychiatrists only look at the brain, gastroenterologists only look at the gut. Allergists do IGE (immediate anaphylaxis) testing, and unfortunately this results in many people not identifying the root cause which may be an IGG response to a food they are eating, which causes an immune cascade and therefore reactivity to their environment.

You can learn more from Dr. Nicole Cain’s research on the gut-brain axis at www.GutPsychology.com .

 References:

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/research/advancements-in-research/fundamentals/in-depth/the-gut-where-bacteria-and-immune-system-meet

https://www.webmd.com/allergies/news/20041223/healthy-gut-may-resist-allergies-asthma

A New Health Care Resource for Grand Rapids, Michigan

The team at Health for Life Grand Rapids has created an easy to use website for the people of Grand Rapids called www.GrandRapidsCounselor.com . This website provides a mobile-phone and tablet friendly overview of all the Counselors, Naturopathic Doctors, and Hypnotherapists at Health for Life Grand Rapids providing many different types of therapy–all customizable for the people of Grand Rapids, MI.

The Grand Rapids Counselor.com website is easy to use and guides users through learning about counseling, to learning about the people that work at Health life for Grand Rapids, followed by what specific services are offered by the staff, followed by information for new patients (including insurances accepted, cash rates) and an easy to use form to request information. Lastly, the site features an easily accessible contact form where you can request that a Counselor, Therapist, Naturopathic Doctor, or Hypnotherapist contact you directly.

The staff at Health for Life Grand Rapids are constantly working to make healthcare more accessible. The new website called “Grand Rapids Counselor.com” was a natural extension of this service. If you have questions, you can always call our front desk at 616-200-4433  or  email our manager, Paul Krauss MA LPC at [email protected].

Grand Rapids, MI is the second largest metropolitan area in Michigan, and we (at Health for Life Grand Rapids) are aiming to bring the highest quality healthcare, counseling, therapy, and health education to the Midwest. So far, we have two licensed Naturopathic Physicians from the State of Arizona providing excellent health education at our office. Both of them are committed to the people of the State of Michigan and, at the same time, they maintain their medical licenses through the State of Arizona. Currently, we have five counselors providing excellent therapy and health education in the Grand Rapids, MI area. Each therapist has a unique focus and approach to therapeutic process and works to customize care for each person and family they work with. We also have a Clinical Hypnotherapist providing amazing hypnotherapy to clients in the Grand Rapids area.

We are highly intentional about offering a diverse array of providers and services in Grand Rapids, MI.

 

 

 

 

Health for Life starts a Free Postpartum Support Group

Free Postpartum Support Group in Grand Rapids, MI

The journey of motherhood often evokes so many different emotions…. excitement, joy, and wonder.  However, these are often accompanied by fear, worry, and confusion.  The responsibility of caring for a new life, combined with sleepless nights, work/home balance, and conflict with partner/family members can lead to an insurmountable amount of stress. Not to mention that new mothers today are faced with a variety of decisions—work, daycare, “best” parenting theories, etc. The clinicians at Health for Life Grand Rapids have created a free postpartum support group for you. 

Please join us for a monthly group to share thoughts, feelings, stressors, and experiences.  Nicole Vega and Jen Belmonte, both therapists with Health for Life Grand Rapids, are excited to come alongside you during this time of life.  They will be offering this monthly meeting free of charge.  However, space is limited, so please contact either Nicole or Jen in order to register!

Our sincere thanks goes out to Cheri, owner of Bouncing Fitness of Rockford, who has graciously offered us a beautiful meeting space!

The first meeting is December 9th, 2017- Saturday 11:15am-12:15pm.

It will be located at Bouncing Fitness

6575 Belding Rd NE, Rockford, MI 49341

 

This is a closed group with limited space, so if you are interested, please contact Nicole Vega or Jen Belmonte to register.

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Nicole Vega, LMSW CHC

Jennifer Belmonte at Health for Life Grand Rapids

Jen Belmonte, LMSW, CHC

Grand Opening Sept 21st 2017!

Health for Life Grand Rapids Celebrates Their Grand Opening

Integrative Counseling Office Hosts Open House

Grand Rapids, MI: Health for Life Grand Rapids, an integrative mental health facility, will host an open house to celebrate their grand opening. This event will take place on Thursday, September 21st, 5:30-7:30pm EST, at Health for Life Grand Rapids. 781 Kenmoor Ave SE, Suite C, Grand Rapids, MI 49546.

Enter your name and email address when you arrive and you will be entered to win one of many raffle items! Items include Norwex products, salon gift cards, a Naturopathic First Aid Kit, and many more. There will be snacks and refreshments for all who stop by.

Dr. Nicole Cain, ND MA

Dr. Nicole Cain, ND MA is a licensed Naturopathic physician (AZ), who strives to find the root cause of illnesses of all kinds. Dr. Cain is known for helping people suffering from mental and emotional concerns–yet she treats the entire person. Dr. Cain treats patients all over the United States and internationally.

“We believe in long-term solutions. We want our clients to come out of their experience with us as changed people, who can go back into their community and bring their healthy new perspective and the tools to share with their loved ones.”

Dr. Nicole Cain, ND MA resides in Grand Rapids, but still practices part-time in Scottsdale, AZ as she is a licensed physician in the state of Arizona. Michigan has not yet passed legislation for Dr. Cain to practice as a physician in Michigan, but she is able to provide health education for people based on her years of medical practice in Arizona. Paul Krauss is a clinical supervisor as well and has supervised and trained clinicians for 7 years and has been practicing as a counselor for 10 years. Learn more here: www.drnicolecain.com

Ashley

Ashley is our wonderful office manager. Ashley will make sure that your experience at Health for Life Grand Rapids begins with a smile. She is eager to answer all of your questions and ensure that you get the information you need. Do not hesitate to call if you have questions or concerns and Ashley will help find the answer for you 616-200-4433.

Paul Krauss, MA, LPC

Paul Krauss is the co-founder of Health For Life Grand Rapids. Paul has his own podcast, he has over 10 years of experience and has consulted for several major behavioral health agencies. He is an expert in trauma, anxiety, depression, helping the parents of struggling young adults. In addition, Paul is a business consultant, and is extremely passionate about providing expert mental health care to the West Michigan area. If you are suffering from trauma, PTSD, anxiety, depression, anger, relationship issues or if you want to be more successful in your job, call Paul Krauss for a complimentary meet and greet today. To learn more about Paul, click here: https://www.healthforlifegr.com/experts/paul-krauss/

Nicole Vega, LMSW, CHC

Nicole is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Health Coach. She is an expert at working with women and is passionate about helping new moms who are struggling with depression, anxiety postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety and more. Nicole is an excellent counselor with women of all ages, including teenagers! If you are a single woman, a new mom, seasoned mom, or if you are a woman suffering from depression, anxiety, or if you want to become a greater expert in living your own best life, call Nicole today! To learn more about Nicole, click here: https://www.healthforlifegr.com/experts/nicole-vega/

Billie Walters, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Billie has advanced training in Mindfulness & Self-Compassion. She brings her advanced skills and healing presence to each therapy session. Her passion and calming personality will help you feel balanced, inspired, and empowered. Billie has solutions for almost every situation. She is an expert at helping people with  anxiety, depression, stress reduction/ management, anger management, and she will work with you and your family. If you you’d like to work with a highly skilled, warm, and compassionate clinician, call Billy today to set up your first consultation! To learn more about Billie, read here: https://www.healthforlifegr.com/experts/billie-walters/

Adam Nash, MA, LLPC

Adam is a leader in the field working with helping teens, young adults and parents thrive. He has over a decade of experience working with teens/young adults not only as a mentor, but as an outpatient counselor and inpatient clinician. Adam has the experience, wisdom, knowledge, and skills to –whether you are a teenager, young adult, or the parent of one. If you are a parent of a struggling teen or young adult, or if you are ready to conquer your symptoms and to achieve your goals of wellness, definitely give Adam a call today! To learn more about Adam, read here: https://www.healthforlifegr.com/experts/adam-nash

Jennifer Belmonte , LMSW, CHC

Jennifer is an excellent therapist and certified health coach. Jennifer Belmonte provides therapy to children, adolescents, and adults in the Grand Rapids, MI area. Jennifer specializes in the following areas: Emotional Neglect, Difficulties with food and healthy lifestyle, Children & adolescents, Help with emotional regulation and symptoms of depression and anxiety, Faith-based counseling, Health Coaching, and Women’s Issues read more here: https://www.healthforlifegr.com/experts/jennifer-belmonte/

Stacey Prefontaine, Clinical Medical Hypnotherapist

Stacey is a wonderful Hypnotherapist. Stacey is passionate about helping people improve their lives and manage their stressors through the power of hypnotherapy.  She helps people heal from trauma and other issues both mentally and physically.
“Through my practice as a hypnotherapist, I have been able to help clients improve self awareness and intuition, become confident in challenging relationships and situations, put an end to unhealthy habits, reduce and manage pain, improve sleep quality, and gain confidence.” Learn more here: 
https://www.healthforlifegr.com/experts/stacey-prefontaine-hypnotherapy/

Wisdom and Philosophy in Recovery from Addiction

The Intentional Clinician Podcast with Paul Krauss MA LPC

In part 2 of my conversation with Bryon Sabatino, we discuss addiction, honesty, motivation, stages of change, counseling, and how mindfulness and philosophy can help in recovery. Bryon and Paul discuss hope for those suffering from addictions and their families. Bryon and Paul discuss Bryon’s book “Inner Work” and the philosophy contained with it. This philosophy informs Bryon and Paul’s counseling practices.

Bryon has been running and intensive outpatient therapy group in Tempe, AZ called “Inner Work Counseling” for years and has helped so many struggling with addictions to substances.  Bryon Sabatino is the owner and founder of Inner Work Counseling in Tempe, AZ. Check out his website here.

Paul Krauss MA LPC practices counseling in Grand Rapids, MI. Paul has his private practice at Health for Life Grand Rapids, located on 781 Kenmoor Ave SE, Suite C. Grand Rapids, MI 49546. Check out his clinic which features himself and several fantastic clinicians https://www.healthforlifegr.com/  If you or someone you know is in need or just wants to give counseling a try– call Paul at 616-365-5530 (direct), or at the office 616-200-4433. Here is Paul’s email: [email protected]

Learn more at www.paulkrausscounseling.comandwww.counselingsupervisorgr.com.

Stay tuned for more intentional clinician episodes. Feel free to send in show topic requests. Thank you for listening. -Paul Krauss MA LPC

You want me to love myself? I don’t even like myself!

You want me to love myself?  I don’t even like myself!

The Benefits of Self Esteem

Everyone always says you have to love yourself before others can love you. Loving others seems to come natural. But to love myself? Really? Now that might be a challenge.

Naturally, our level of Self Esteem will fluctuate depending on topic, situation and mood. According to the Mayo Clinic, when you value yourself and have good self-esteem, you feel secure and worthwhile. You have generally positive relationships with others and feel confident about your abilities. You’re also open to learning and feedback, which can help you acquire and master new skills.

With healthy self-esteem you’re:

  • Assertive in expressing your needs and opinions
  • Confident in your ability to make decisions
  • Able to form secure and honest relationships — and less likely to stay in unhealthy ones
  • Realistic in your expectations and less likely to be overcritical of yourself and others
  • More resilient and better able to weather stress and setbacks
  • Less likely to experience feelings such as worthlessness, guilt and shame
  • Less likely to develop eating disorders

    First and Foremost

Stop comparing yourself with others. Many clients will say that while they are looking at other people’s Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other social media accounts, they noticed their own sense of self diminish. In an article with Bustle.com, “not only do you have to look good and be interesting, but you have to be good at things and appear successful and you have to also seem to have an interesting life. And there are more and more watchers, and more and more brands and advertisers, in the mix. If you can relate to these ways social media affects our self-worth, it might be time to unplug a little every once in awhile.”

  • Don’t talk bad about yourself
  • Dress Up
  • Find Something to compliment yourself about
  • Think positive
  • Accept your flaws
  • Seek assistance (friends, counselor)

There are multiple counselors at Health for Life Grand Rapids, MI.  Call now 616-200-4433 to schedule your complimentary consultation. You can also schedule online today by clicking here.

You can’t just “get over it.” Grief Counseling is important.

Grief isn’t something you can “Just Get Over Quickly.” Why grief counseling is important.

We’ve all heard someone say: “They should be over it by now.”, “She should start getting rid of his clothes”, “It was only a pet for goodness sake”, “Honestly, she had been sick and suffering, she’s in a better place.” These are well meaning statements but also very judgmental. Many family members and friends will try to help, but that is not the same as getting actual grief counseling.

“Coping with loss is ultimately a deeply personal and singular experience — nobody can help you go through it more easily or understand all the emotions that you’re going through. But others can be there for you and help comfort you through this process. The best thing you can do is to allow yourself to feel the grief as it comes over you. Resisting it only will prolong the natural process of healing.” Coping can look and feel differently for each individual. You can go through the stages in order, or you can bounce from one stage to another, several times until you find yourself in the Acceptance Stage. This can happen over a matter of days or many years. A therapist can help you explore your emotions, work with you to develop coping strategies, help you manage your grief and help others around you try to understand what you are going through.

Doctors have identified five common stages of grief:

  • Denial: When you first learn of a loss, it’s normal to think, “This isn’t happening.” You may feel shocked or numb. This is a temporary way to deal with the rush of overwhelming emotion. It’s a defense mechanism.
  • Anger: As reality sets in, you’re faced with the pain of your loss. You may feel frustrated and helpless. These feelings later turn into anger. You might direct it toward other people, a higher power, or life in general. To be angry with a loved one who died and left you alone is natural, too.
  • Bargaining: During this stage, you dwell on what you could’ve done to prevent the loss. Common thoughts are “If only…” and “What if…” You may also try to strike a deal with a higher power.
  • Depression: Sadness sets in as you begin to understand the loss and its effect on your life. Signs of depression include crying, sleep issues, and a decreased appetite. You may feel overwhelmed, regretful, and lonely.
  • Acceptance: In this final stage of grief, you accept the reality of your loss. It can’t be changed. Although you still feel sad, you’re able to start moving forward with your life.

“Coping with this potential myriad of responses may certainly seem overwhelming, but there are some strategies which can be used in order to manage grief reactions and continue to function day to day.”

  • Accept your feelings. Feelings are neither right or wrong, they just are. Sadness, loneliness, fear, confusion, anger—these are among the many feelings that may occur, and are completely normal. Emotions are often raw early in grief, but it is important to allow for expression. To attempt to stifle feelings usually leads to their eventually erupting under far less desirable circumstances.
  • Be patient with yourself. Grief is an intensely personal process. Accept that it follows no magical formula or time frame. It will take as long as it takes. Think of the care you would extend to a friend in the same situation of loss, and allow yourself that same grace. Be careful to not take on responsibilities beyond what is realistic—it is better to allow for some flexibility in one’s obligations at this time.
  • Pay attention to physical needs. It can be very easy to neglect one’s personal physical needs during the throes of grief. This is a time when taking care of oneself is crucial. As difficult as it may seem, making every effort to get adequate sleep, eat nutritionally balanced meals and fit in regular exercise and intentional relaxation can do wonders. Think of it this way: by pursuing a healthful routine, you are actually equipping yourself to take on the new challenges with which you are faced in your time of grief.
  • Accept the help of others. Understand that grief is challenging work, it requires a great deal of energy and can be exhausting. Even though we place a high regard on self-sufficiency, it is important not to hesitate to ask for and accept help from those close to you. Others care and genuinely want to be of assistance, but usually do not know what to specifically offer. A Therapist is a trained individual that can provide a supportive presence and assist with coping strategies. We have heard from clients that sometimes, it’s just nice to talk to someone outside of your social circle. Getting professional grief counseling can help you heal when you don’t know what to do. 

If you or someone you know is experiencing grief and would like professional grief counseling in Grand Rapids, MI read below:

There are many counselors at Health for Life Grand Rapids who can provide grief counseling and therapy services. Call 616-200-4433 today to schedule your complimentary consultation. Or schedule online today by clicking here.

Axelrod, J. (2017). The 5 Stages of Grief & Loss. Psych Central. Retrieved from https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-loss-and-grief/

DeKrey, Connie, Bereavement Specialist, Red River Valley Hospice, Fargo, ND Coping Strategies for Grief

WebMD Medical Reference Reviewed by Carol DerSarkissian on November 06, 2016 Grief and Loss

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